week end musings

we had a quiet week end and a wonderful spring day yesterday!

Different, Unique and Married

Blending to Form a Winning Team

Our Wounds

(session four)

Basic Human Needs- deep longings of the heart.

these are like a three-legged stool

 and if one is damaged it creates an off balance in all of our relationships.

A. Belongingness (intimacy)

• acceptance - cared for, wanted
• rejection - causes anger, no sense of belonging

B. Worth (important)

• value - i count, liked, important
• worthlessness - i'm a big mistake, feeling shame and guilt

C. Competence (i know i have what it takes)

• courage - i can do this
• hopelessness - fearful, withdrawn, we cover up

Destroyers of Our Basic Human Need

A. Abuse

• sexual and can be through touch or exposure to
• abuse can also be verbal, emotional, spiritual

B. Absent or Neglect

• physical
• emotional
• relational

3. Our Wounds

• past
• present

$. What it Takes

• empathy - understaning another's pain
• validation - to establish value
• patience

One moment of patience may ward of disaster.

One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.

- A Chinese Proverb

...blessedness!

following instinct...

by now, those who read my blog know i'm a GW nut fan!

this week i found this...

i bought it without knowing where or what it was going to be used for.

what i saw was a filthy wood box with a lid and fun possibilities!

i set it on the dinning room table and several days later it clicked...

i knew where it was going,

what i would do with it,

 and how it would look when it's finished!

so i say,

follow your instincts...

trust me, you'll not be sorry!
and me?
  i can hardly wait till it's finished!

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i loved reading your comments on my SUMMER MANTLE -
thank you for that encouragement!

after next week this will be a familiar sight on my blog -

i'm getting a button!

...blessedness!

linking to: FUNKY JUNK

Trimming roses (part two)

Ten years ago, DIL M gave me a  NEW DAWN rose. This is a fast growing climber and a BEAST to give it the 'kinder cut'...its thorns are huge and many! I did a heavy cut this time as it was a little out of control last summer and spring is the perfect time to re-shape roses. {Any spring-blooming shrub, bush or tree needs to wait until after its bloom is finished.}  This one took me two hours to prune, trim and tie the canes but I did take my time...after all, I'm sixty-two & climbing up and down a step ladder isn't as easy as it used to be! :) But it is a job well done!

- before -

- after -

- before -

- after -

Please be sure to clean up ALL the canes - it's no fun stepping barefoot on that last missed tiny twig! I generally check it almost on my hands and knees to be sure they're picked up and still miss a few!



Yes, it got a major trim! I also cut its first, origional cane (old wood) that was two to three inches in circumference down as close to the ground as it was possible to get to. Be sure to cut it on a slant to avoid water pooling on the raw cane. I don't put any bug deterent on it...it forms a scab before the cane borers come. The best way to begin prunning is to decide which cane you want removed,  follow that cane, cutting it in two foot pieces and pull it away. Please, PLEASE use heavy gloves! After doing that, I begin to cut away the twiggy canes which were last summer's blooms and will be this summer's blooms again. An established New Dawn blooms about five weeks if it isn't too wet...roses rot in too much rain. Newly planted roses need to be watered regularly the first summer...AT THEIR FEET - NOT THEIR FOLIAGE!

- summer of 2010 -

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This is a knockout rose and because it's close to a pathway I trim it back hard. By the end of summer, they're out over again. These babies are TOUGH and BEAUTIFUL and are CAREFREE! Even the Japanese beetles do little damage to 'em.

- before and after -

All my roses are trimmed in the back and now we need to clean and burn the canes...yea! The daffodil are blooming madly and can't wait to mow next week...yea for spring/summer!

...happy gardening!