Tuesday, April 12, 2011

week end musings

we had a quiet week end and a wonderful spring day yesterday!

Different, Unique and Married
Blending to Form a Winning Team

Our Wounds
(session four)

Basic Human Needs- deep longings of the heart.

these are like a three-legged stool
 and if one is damaged it creates an off balance in all of our relationships.

A. Belongingness (intimacy)
  • acceptance - cared for, wanted
  • rejection - causes anger, no sense of belonging
B. Worth (important)
  • value - i count, liked, important
  • worthlessness - i'm a big mistake, feeling shame and guilt

C. Competence (i know i have what it takes)
  • courage - i can do this
  • hopelessness - fearful, withdrawn, we cover up
Destroyers of Our Basic Human Need

A. Abuse
  • sexual and can be through touch or exposure to
  • abuse can also be verbal, emotional, spiritual
B. Absent or Neglect
  • physical
  • emotional
  • relational
3. Our Wounds
  • past
  • present

$. What it Takes
  • empathy - understaning another's pain
  • validation - to establish value
  • patience

One moment of patience may ward of disaster.
One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
- A Chinese Proverb



BECKY said...

So aptly put, Esther. We so often don't realize how even seemingly minor infractions can affect someone. It just takes a little more effort sometimes to make a world of difference!

Thanks for sharing!
Have a joyful evening!

Cindy said...

Your lessons all sound so relevant and sound! I would have loved to have heard this one especially.
Hugs, Cindy

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