Monday, March 7, 2011

week end musings

saturday was J's eighth birthday...we celebrated it sunday evening.
such excitement!
we took A and S along.
i used a turned-inside-out grocery bag for gift-wrap and they decorated it.
  a nice, comfortable evening!

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we joined an elective SS class taught by Pastor Mark and his wife on 'Different, Unique and Married.'
this class will run three months and i'll be sharing in a nutshell what is taught in class.

Stages of Marriage
  • romance - wearing rose-tinted glasses
  • transition - what was i thinking?!
  • reality - when the ideal becomes an ordeal
  • retaliation - when the ordeal becomes a new deal (changing the other person)
  • resignation - accepting the truth that God has made he/she this way
B. Three Major Sources of Conflict
  • money
  • sex/intimacy
  • in-law relationships
Our Dilemma

A. Reactions to Differences
  • before marriage what we think is cute is no longer cute
  • a strong desire to change the other person
  • we challenge
  • we criticize
B. Results of Differences
  • loss of respect
  • creates resentments
  • no one takes responsibility
  • wedges are created and walls go up
What it Takes

  • acceptance - to endure without resentment
  • right responses and attitude
  • selflessness
Wrap Up

We have a choice: we can allow the dilemma to create conflict
 or we celebrate the differences and blend them together to form a winning team!


...blessedness!

GIVEAWAY closes at midnight tonite!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh good! Now I can catch the pieces from class that I miss due to wiggly people! =) R.

Cindy said...

Happy Birthday to J! Aren't grandchildren wonderful? They are such a gift.
Very interesting notes on Marriage and conflict, very good and true.
Hugs, Cindy

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